I once read a quote by Ram Das a spiritual teacher “the quieter you become the more you can hear.” For a long time, I tried to practice this oh so wonderful practice of silence to better myself – as a mom, a wife, a daughter, a friend and simply as a person.
After years of trying to fulfill these roles, understand, and provide for all the people in my life, I’ve finally come to the realization that- in silence I come to take care of myself better. Through this stillness I’ve learned to become more compassionate to myself.
In silence something remarkable happens. A sense of self-awareness develops. Allowing me to understand myself, what I want, and where I want to go. Suddenly a day that was so distracted by responsibilities and demands, gets flipped into a day of clarity and direction.
The more often you allow silence to be a priority the sooner you will free yourself from the noise of the world, it’s tests and it’s contradictions. Eventually, you will realize that no matter how overwhelmed or uncertain you feel, you can seek peace and happiness from within you-a special place only you have access to.
Here are some ways I try to implement silence in my life. I’m not perfect, but I try my best, I am a work in progress.
During a discussion I try and listen instead of speaking
If something or someone makes me angry, I try not to instantly react, instead I stay silent
During an argument when I feel the urge to scream back, I say absolutely nothing
When no one is at home I do not turn on the computer, TV or any other noise creating device
When I’m about to complain, I stop myself
After my daily prayers I take a couple of extra minutes to remain on the mat and just observe silence
In silence I can hear myself better.